The Mom Guilt

Hello everyone, happy Monday. New week, which means time to start this week on the right foot and of course seize it. Grab your coffee or ketones and let’s dive into this blog post.

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So if you are a mom, how many of you felt the mom guilt? Me, this person, literally every day. I’m just now starting to deal with it and let me say it, I’m still working on it on every single day.

So what is the Mom Guilt? Basically, it where the feeling of doubt, anxiousness or uncertainty experienced by mothers when we are constantly thinking we are failing as a mother. If you shake your head up and down and scream, yes I have that. Believe me, you are not alone. I experience this every day.

I experience mom guilt when I drop my daughter off at daycare so I can go to work. I experience mom guilt when I work long days and my mom goes pick up Athena from daycare, and time I get off work, it’s basically bedtime. I experience mom guilt when I go to the gym or have me time for an hour or when I do my makeup or when I don’t spend every waking day with my daughter.

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It’s like this pressure where you have to try to be the perfect mom and I’m just letting you know in your kid’s eye you are already the perfect mom. We are all perfect mom, in our own ways and we really have to stop and look at other mom who has their shits together and their kids are perfect and smart and hitting every single milestone and the mom have supper done every day and lunches pack and always got their shits together. Because of 100% behind the closed door, they probably don’t have their shits together and looking at you like you have your shit together and wish they were like you.

Us, mom really have to stop judging other moms and start building each other up and stop comparing each other, because we all have a different style of parenting and what works for me, might not work for another mom. We are all doing this parenting shit 1 day at a time. But I’m getting off on the wrong topic, that will be for another post.

The one thing we all have to stop is the mom guilt. Because mom you are not failing as a mother. You are an amazing mom. This is what I say to myself, every time, I get that mom guilt coming on, you are amazing mom. I then say, does Athena have a roof over her head, does she have food in the house, does she has lights and heat, does she have an amazing mom who absolutely loves her, then Chelsey you are amazing mom and you are definitely not failing has a mom.

What I’m trying to say, you are all amazing mom, and through your kid’s eye you are the best mom in the whole wide world and they are very lucky to have you has their mom. We are all trying to get through this parenting 1 step at a time without losing our minds.

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Well, that’s it for this post. Leave a comment, if you experience the mom guilt and how you deal with it. Share and like if you love this post. I hope this helps you deal with the mom guilt.

See you all next Monday.

love,

Chelsey

Hello, I’m Back

Hello Everyone,

Grab your coffee, or Ketones and let’s talk.

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It’s been 490 days, or 1 year and 4 months since my last blog and god how I miss it. I have been dying to write so many blogs but being a working mother with a very active 2-year-old and working full time, I just couldn’t find the time but the last couple of months I finally able to learn time management and get my life back.

So a lot can happen in 490 days, and this is what I’m going to talk about in this post. So the first thing I will be talking about is why I stop blogging, well that simple, my skin broke out in pimples which I been trying to deal with since. They have now been calm down and getting better. Still, have them here and there. I literally try everything, changed my routine, change my cleansers, moisturizer, etc. I even stop wearing makeup (hint why I kinda stop Blogging). I still only wear makeup once a week or when I buy something new, but for now, I’m still trying to heal my skin and hopefully will be back to wearing makeup full time and be able to talk about makeup. I wish I took a before picture of when my skin was bad, but here my skin now.

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The second thing that on my mind is,  time. Time in the day has a working mother and wife is fucking tough, There seems to be not enough time in the day to get everything done. Housework, super, taking care of everyone, getting everyone ready and out the door and at night getting everyone ready and off to bed where instead of sleeping your mind is racing about what you have to do the next day. It’s never-ending. I was falling behind, big time. My house before going back to work was cleaned and organized and food on the table. Going back to work, the house got ignored; laundry piled up, dishes piled up and everything in between. We started eating out every day due to I was just too tired to cook after working all day. I basically was in a runt and I just couldn’t get out of it. I just felt that time was draining on me and that it was going by way to fast in the day.

Since I was in a runt, it was starting to affect my relationship, more specifically my husband and daughter. My husband and I were constantly fighting every day whether it was a new fight or the same one we were fighting about. Which was putting a major strain on our relationship and was starting to affect our daughter, who was can sense the tension between her parents and was constantly saying mommy and daddy and wanted us together and do stuff with her all the time.

I was angry all the time, tired all the time no matter how many hours I got to sleep, was gaining weight like crazy, and just felt like I was failing at everything and just didn’t want to do anything about it. I knew in December that I had to make a change, in myself and my way of thinking. I had to make a change to get myself out of this whole I dug myself in and to repair my relationship and become the mother and wife I was dreaming about. I knew it was me that had to make this and to get myself back, no one else was going to do it for me.

So in December, I messaged my Cousin who was improving her life for better, she was losing weight, had more energy, more focus and was feeling better on the inside and I knew I need to get my hands on this to start helping me feel better.

After 3 days of drinking ketones, it was like a light switch inside of me flipped and omg did that light switch ever flipped. I felt alive, that I haven’t felt in a very long time. it felt like time was stopping and I was starting to get stuff done. The 4th day, laundry was done and put away, the house was cleaned and staying cleaned, I was starting to cook again and loving it. I started sleeping better and waking up at 5am ready to roll and get my day started. It was a month later, I noticed I lost 20 pounds and was feeling amazing on the inside and out.

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My relationships improved 100%, I was falling back in love with my husband, we were communicating again and stopping and actually taking a breath and realizing that we can make this work. We are now stronger than ever and know that if we could get through that we can get through everything that brings us.  Our daughter was happy again and wasn’t stressing and now helps me stretch in the mornings or we have dance parties in the morning and at night, we also play tags or go for a walk. She now has an active mother who loves to chase her or get on all fours and let her climb up and ride all over the house.

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My thinking was starting to change, I was becoming more positive and starting to become more grateful in my life. Once your positive and gratefully in your life, it’s like the universe starts to bring you signs or what you want in life. Of course, I started to chase those dreams and actually leading to where I want in my life.

I now lost 40 pounds and down in size 10 pants and a medium top. I feel happy, have more energy, more focus (mom fog has been lifted), my skin is starting to improve,  my craving been curved (I haven’t touch pop since December), I was sleeping better and felt recharged and fresh, and of course, my mood improved 100%.

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2 weeks ago I started to go to the gym, which increased my energy more, and improved my mood and of course makes me help lose weight. But I’m still drinking my ketones every day, 2 times a day, 1 in the morning and 1 in the afternoon. I don’t do the keto diet, I basically just watch what I eat and do the macros / 80/20.

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These ketones, I keep talking about is Pruvit, and I don’t know what I would do without them. They changed my life and I’m forever grateful in it. My blog will still do makeup once in a while, I will also talk about my journey to better, my gym workouts, and of course Pruvit. I will only be blogging on Monday.

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If you would like to know more about ketones just messaged me and I will always answer.

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That is all for now, I hope everyone has a great Monday and see you next Monday.

Love,

Chelsey